Losing a job, fighting with a friend, breaking up with a loved one, or whatever it may be is always a hard time in someone’s life. However, sitting around and sulking about the things you lost does not bring them back, nor does it let you see all the things you do have. So when going through a slump or a rocky period in one’s life all you can focus on is the one thing you can depend on, yourself. You are your greatest compliment and your greatest weakness. By making yourself stronger, you’ll make yourself unstoppable.
First thing’s first, get out of bed! There’s an entire life waiting for you outside of those windows and you cant achieve anything by just looking out of them. So get up, shower, do your hair and makeup for no one but yourself, and walk out the door. You don’t even have to have an exact destination, just do something simply to do it.
Go get a new haircut, style or color. Of course it’s a cliché to come back from a tough time with a new look; but the part that is not cliché is that is always makes you feel better. That is, of course, unless you go to the wrong salon, so don’t get too spontaneous and go to the first place around the corner! It doesn’t’ have to be completely drastic, just something fresh and new to spark your confidence.
Treat yourself. Go buy that box of chocolates, and don’t worry about the calories. Go buy a full mani/pedi package and let yourself be pampered. Spend a day at the beach and feel natural endorphins from the sun. Best of all, buy that pair of shoes you keep picking up and checking to see if the price has change, just buy them!
(Manolo Blahnik shoes)
If you really feel like you just want to sit in a corner and cry, we still strongly don’t recommend that. Instead, grab your closest friends, your sister, your mom, your pet, and squeeze on the couch with endless popcorn and bottles of wine. Pair the night with sappy movies that give you a real reason to cry, but at least you wont be alone! Company is one of the best cures to a broken heart or a broken spirit.
Find yourself a hobby. That doesn’t mean you have to take up knitting. There’s endless options in a growing world, you just have to chose what’s right for you. Start taking a pilates class, make a scrapbook, create your own blog, join a sports team or simply go back to an old hobby you forgot you loved, like painting or writing. Any hobby to keep you distracted should be a positive thing, we just hope for your sake that your hobby doesn’t wind you up on TLC’s new show, My Strange Addiction.
If you’re still feeling alone and helpless, buy a pet. You don’t have to jump straight to getting that puppy with the adorable big eyes. Think cautiously about what you have the time for, but getting a pet and knowing this little life will need you will fill you with comfort. Whatever pet you chose wont fire you, wont ditch you or break up with you. They may have an accident on your shoes or chew up your carpet, but in the end you can count on them which makes it worth it.
Have a night out. Go out with people you care about, people you always have a good time with and just let loose. This doesn’t mean over drinking, this simply means not caring what the people around you think or what problems you left at home. Just be yourself, sip that drink, and smile back at whoever looks your way.
Pull yourself together. Make a list of all the things that make you happy, because happiness is achievable for anyone who wants it. Stop analyzing every part of your life and just live. Stop thinking 'what if' and 'what nots', because what happened has happened and the only thing you can control now is the future, your future. Fix what needs to be fixed and appreciate what needs to be appreciated. Look in the mirror and truly see yourself. See the person you are and instead of feeling pity for yourself, feel pity for whoever did you wrong.
Believing in yourself makes others believe in you. So take the risk you never took and buy a new lipstick for the new smile of yours. Sometimes you find a strength in yourself that even surprises you, you just have to find it.